One characteristic that marks the shalihah wife to her husband is a nice interaction serves to help the husband and his work to the extent that it is capable. It will not allow her husband to serve her while she sat alone stand by her husband saw what was done. It was when her husband refused to tersibukkan those jobs home, cooking, washing, turn down, and semisalnya, while he was still able to handle it. So it is not surprising that we find a wife shalihah busy day to give service to her husband, from preparing his bed, food and drink, clothing, and other needs of her husband. All done with the full consent and broad-mindedness with the intention of worship to Allaah. And so this is a form of action far and wide for her husband, she expected it would be best.
Serving the husband has been committed by major women more noble than among shahabiyyah, as did Asma 'Abu Bakr Ash-bintu Shiddiq Radhiallahu' anhuma that serve the Az-Zubair ibnul Awwam Radhiallahu 'anhu, her husband. He rides her animal care, feeding and drinking horse, sewing and patch where the water, and knead the flour to make cakes. It is carrying grain from the land owned by her husband while the distance of their homes to the ground about 2 / 3 farsakh1. "(Narrated by Bukhari no. 5224 and Muslim no. 2182)
Similarly, service bintu Rasulillah Fatima 'alaihi wa sallam at home by her husband, Ali ibn Abi Talib Radhiallahu' anhu, until his hands scratched-up due to grinding grain. When Fatima came to her father to ask for a maid, his father blessed to give better guidance to:
أَلاَ أَدُلُّكُماَ عَلَى ماَ هُوَ خَيْرٌ لَكُماَ مِنْ خاَدِمٍ؟ إِذَا أَوَيْتُماَ إِلَى فِرَاشِكُماَ أَوْ أَخَذْتُماَ مَضاَجِعَكُماَ فَكَبَّرَا أًَرْبَعاً وَثَلاَثِيْنَ وَسَبَّحاَ ثَلاَثاً وَثَلاَثِيْنَ وَحَمِّدَا ثَلاَثاً وَثَلاثِيْنَ، فَهَذَا خَيْرٌ لَكُماَ مِنْ خاَدِمٍ
"Shall I show you both what is better for you than a servant? When you come to your bed or to lie down, read 34 times Allahu Akbar, Subhan Allah 33 times, and Alhamdulillah 33 times. It is better for you than a servant. "(Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 6318 and Muslim no. 2727)
Millimeter Rasulullah 'alaihi wa sallam, Jabir bin Abdillah Radhiallahu' anhu, marrying a widow to serve him with the care of his younger sister. Jabir is the story: "My father died and he left seven or nine girls. And I even married a widow. Rasulullah 'alaihi wa sallam said to me:
تَزَوَّجْتَ ياَ جاَبِر؟ فَقُلْتُ: نَعَمْ. فَقاَلَ: بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّباً؟ قُلْتُ: بَلْ ثَيِّباً. قاَلَ: فَهَلاَّ جاَرِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهاَ وَتُلاَعِبُكَ، وَتُضاَحِكُهاَ وَتُضاَحِكُكَ؟ قاَلَ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ: إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ هَلَكَ وَ تَرَكَ بَناَتٍ، وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيْئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ، فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُوْمُ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَتُصْلِحُهُنَّ. فَقاَلَ: باَرَكَ اللهُ لَكَ، أَوْ قاَلَ: خَيْرًا
"Are you married, O Jabir?"
"Yes," I replied.
"With a girl or a widow?" He asked.
"The widow," I replied.
"Why did not you marry the girl, so you can play with it and play it with you. And you can laugh with him and he can laugh with you? "He asked.
"My father, Abdullah, died and he left daughters and I do not like to pose in the middle of their women with them. And I even married a woman who can care and look after them, "I replied.
He said: "May Allah bless you", or he said: "Hopefully, good for you." (Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 5367 and Muslim no. 1466)
Hushain bin Dialect said: "My aunt tells me, he said:" I never went to Rasulullah 'alaihi wa sallam as a necessity, Chartered said:
أَيْ هذِهِ! أَذَاتُ بَعْلٍ؟ قُلْتُ: نَعَم. قاَلَ: كَيْفَ أَنْتِ لَهُ؟ قُلْتُ: ماَ آلُوْهُ إِلاَّ ماَ عَجَزْتُ عَنْهُ. قاَلَ: فَانْظُرِيْ أَيْنَ أَنْتِ مِنْهُ، فَإِنَّماَ هُوَ جَنَّتُكَ وَناَرُكَ
"O woman, what you been married?"
"Yeah," I replied.
"How you against your husband?" he asked.
"I did not reduce in-ngurangi obey and serve him, except that I was not able to discharge them," I replied.
"Look at where your presence on your husband, because he is your heaven and hell," he was saying. (Narrated by Ibn Abi Syaibah and otherwise, are allowed sanad by Ash-Shaykh Al-Albanian rahimahullah in Adabuz Zifaf, pp. 179)
But on the other hand, a good husband would not burden his wife with a job who can not bear. In fact, he saw his wife at any time and think about if they need help. Akhbar Islam.
It is Allah 'alaihi wa sallam is the best picture of her husband. In the middle of busy taking care of people and preaching in the way of Allaah, he took time to help his family and did what he could do for himself without the burden to his wife, as he preached his wife, Aisha Radhiallahu 'anha when Al-Aswad bin Yazid said:
ماَ كاَنَ النَّبِيُّ صَلَّى اللهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ يَصْنَعُ فِي الْبَيْتِ؟ قاَلَتْ: كاَنَ يَكُوْنُ فِيْ مِهْنَةِ أَهْلِهِ –تَعْنِي خِدْمَةَ أَهْلِهِ- فَإِذَا حَضَرَتِ الصَّلاَةُ خَرَجَ إِلَى الصَّلاَةِ
"What made him a regular 'alaihi wa sallam in the house?"
She Radhiallahu 'anha said: "He was usually helping his wife. When prayer time came, he went out for prayer. "(Narrated by Al-Bukhari no. 676, 5363)
In another narration, she Radhiallahu 'anha mention the work of Allah'alaihi wa sallam to do at home:
ماَ يَصْنَعُ أَحَدُكُمْ فِيْ بَيْتِهِ، يَخْصِفُ النَّعْلَ وَيَرْقَعُ الثَّوْبَ وَيُخِيْطُ
"He does what is commonly done either in your home. He sendalnya patch, patch up his shirt, and sew it. "(Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adabul singular no. 540, dishahihkan Ash-Shaykh Al-Albanian rahimahullah in Saheeh Al-Adabil singular no. 419 and Al-Misykat no. 5822)
كاَنَ بَشَرًا مِنَ الْبَشَرِ، يَفْلِي ثَوْبَهُ وَيَحْلُبُ شاَتَهُ
"He's human. He patch up his clothes and goat milk. "(Narrated by Al-Bukhari in Al-Adabul singular no. 541, approved by Ash-Shaykh Al-Albanian rahimahullah in Saheeh Al-Adabil singular number. Shahihah Ash-420 and 671)
Wallahu ta’ala a’lam bish-shawab.